‘I filed for a divorce from my ex-husband because he was in a gay relationship & we had sex just 11 times in ten years’ – OAP Freeze’s fiancee Benedicta Elechi reveals in explosive interview

In a new explosive and exclusive interview with Linda Ikeji TV, OAP
Freeze’s fiancee, Benedicta Elechi revealed all she went through in her
marriage to  Mr. Paul Odekina, the executive general manager of Human
Resource at Total E&P Nigeria Limited.

The C.E.O of TasteBudz Real Naija Cooking and Dictachi Foods Nigeria
Ltd, who stopped by to talk to about her food business, spoke on her
failed marriage which produced three children.

An emotional Elechi who couldn’t contain her emotions, during the
interview said she filed for a divorce from her husband because of his
‘sexual perversion.’  She said during their union they only made love
just eleven times in 10 years, until she caught her husband red-handed
in gay sex with a man in their living room.

Read an excerpt from the interview below.

LIB: When asked why she filed a divorce from her ex-husband, Mr. Paul Odekina of Total E&P.

Benedicta: I filed for a divorce from him because of
his sexual perversion and there’s a point where you get to as a human
being when you realise that something or what is your aim is never going
to work.
Because when I signed a contract to marry him, I believed I was marrying a man that shared the same type of sexuality with me.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not have any issues with people that have
different sexual orientation but when you come and say you want to get
into a marriage contract with someone, you both have to share the same
sexual orientation.

So when you get into that marriage and find out it wasn’t what you
bargained for, it’s like you were tricked into the marriage. The
marriage is a sham.

For example, we got married in 2002, I filed for a divorce 2012. For
the period of 10-years that we were married, we actually had sexual
intercourse just 11 times in 10 years.  He never let me sleep in his
room, I have to stay in my own room.

He would only come to see me when he thinks we should make a baby.

Way into the marriage, I caught him red-handed in gay sex. I walked
into him in our living room, at about 1:30, 1:40am with a guy I didn’t
really know. But he obviously walked in with that person at that time of
the night, and I walked into them in our living.

I can tell you it was a struggle. You are living in a society where
as a woman you have to do everything you can to preserve your marriage.
You can come out of it, you just have to pray, God can change things.

There are certain things that we need to know when God is talking to
you. It’s a little bit emotional for me because there are a lot of women
out there that have gone through what I went through and they can’t
come out.

 I’m sorry, but there are a lot of reasons I never wanted to do an
interview. The pain that I went through is real and it can only take a
lifetime to forget.

LIB: Did you talk to your family or anybody about it?

Benedicta: When you feel that marriage is something
both parties have to work on, You don’t want to bring a third party into
it, so you can give him some time to change and pray about it.

And this is him begging you constantly, don’t leave me. If you do
that am going to kill myself. I will commit suicide, I don’t want you to
tell my parents or your parents about it. I promise you I’m going to
change.

You would desperately believe that this person is going to change
because you want your marriage to work, and you just find that the years
are going by, you are in it, you can’t come out.

Who do you really want to tell? It’s a stigma and then you have kids, you don’t want them to be laughed at in school.

LIB: But do have any evidence to back up your claims he was in a gay relationship while you were married to him?

Benedicta: There were some text messages I saw on his phone which he sent to a man he actually brought home for dinner I made for them.

When I saw the text messages on his phone, I was livid. I had to
confront him with it. You can’t bring someone to the house and tell me
he’s a guest that I should entertain him, and this is actually what you
do, this is the kind of relationship you have with this person.

Why are you punishing me, and why are you doing this to me. If you know this marriage is a sham, then let me go.

When I saw the text I had to wake up from the couch. I confronted him
and he went all crazy on me. He said I have no right to pick up his
phone.  I told him I had no airtime on my phone and wanted to make a
call with his. He said I have no right to go through his phone.

I said to him, is this what you really do, you would bring somebody
to the house, for me to feed for dinner and this is it. You are in a
sexual relationship with this guy.”

Meanwhile, OAP Freeze and Benedicta who have been together for several years have a son together.