Don’t marry anyone who puts password on their phone -Counselor warns

A Ghanaian counselor has warned intending couples to avoiding marrying
anyone who puts passwords on their phones..Counselor Adofoli wrote

If you are single and thinking of marriage then please don’t marry
anyone who puts passwords or locks on their phone as a form of security
to prevent you from accessing their conversations.They
can surely do this for other security measures, but you must not be the
reason for this action. I am very much aware that passwords or lock are
for security purposes but one thing I don’t approve of is when a spouse
becomes the reason for that security measure.

There is nothing like secrecy or privacy in marriage, let no one deceive
you there is, and let no one tell you he or she is doing that to save
you from getting hurt. Marriage is a holy institution, there is nothing
like hiding. Marriage is made for life and one of the very things that
can destroy it is acts of hiding things.

The bible says in Genesis 2:25 (TLB)

“Now although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was
embarrassed or ashamed”. What are you embarrassed or ashamed of your
spouse seeing? If you can’t be truthful, honest and transparent with
them, then there is no need getting married to them. It doesn’t matter
how you feel about them.

Mark 10:8 (NLV) says

“The two will become one. So they are no longer two, but one”. I
therefore suggest to you, if he or she is hiding things from you, it
simply means they don’t want to become one with you. Such a marriage
won’t last.

Many people don’t know trust is more important than love in any
relationship especially marriage. Love without trust is empty. Trust
enhances love, it makes it beautiful and fortified. Trust is very
essential. Not even thieves can work together if they can’t trust each
other. An employer and employee cannot have a good relationship if trust
doesn’t exist. It takes trust for citizens to elect one of their own as
their leader or president. It takes trust for God to perform miracles
in our lives as humans.
Your relationship is bound to fail if you
agree to marry someone you don’t trust. The simple question is, if I can
trust you with the most important organ in my life which is the heart,
that which holds my life in the name of love, then why can’t I trust you
with a phone conversation or chat? If the chat is more important than
me, then you don’t need me in your life. I’m supposed to be the most
important person in your life and can’t stand the competition with
passwords.
Once I agree to marry you, it means I trust you, and there
is no need to suspect you, or secretly read your chats etc. in your
absence. In Ephesians 5:21 (TLB) bible instructs spouses to “Honor
Christ by submitting to each other”.
In other words, respect each
other and for that matter If I need to have access to your phone or
social media account, I need to seek your approval or ask for your
permission.
Our goal in marriage is to be good couples. A good wife
will be the husband’s peace and a good husband will be the wife’s
protection. If you are married but find yourself guilty by this message,
please change. You might not understand the damage you are causing your
marriage and spouse until the same thing is done to you.
In
conclusion “If you do the right thing, honesty will be your guide. But
if you are crooked, you will be trapped by your own dishonesty” –
Proverbs 11:3 (CEV).

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