I was having a weird discussing with a female friend of mine, when the whole issue of marriage just came into place. I told her I cannot marry a lady my mom does not like for whatever reason. Next thing she will say is I am a mummy’s boy and I have not experienced the power of love.
I stand to be corrected about the write up but it’s kind of my opinion about marriage.
To the ladies, if a guy proposes to you… you say yes and then he takes you home to meet his mom, if she likes you and accepts you, Congrats. If she doesn’t like or accept you, the only thing you can do is to tell your boyfriend/fiancé to find out why and what is the reason for his mother’s decision. You do not have any right whatsoever to tell him to fight for love and quarrel with his mom or go ahead and marry you behind his mom’s back or force his mom to accept you .
You feel you love him and will marry him whether any Jupiter of a mother-in-law likes it or not and ehn whether she likes it or not you will marry him even if means not inviting or involving your mother-in-law to be.
Why not take 10mins to fast forward into the future of the marriage… your mother-in-law never happy to visit her son, you always making excuses and not taking your children to see their grand mum, then 30 years later your child is about getting married and tells you to your face, that you are not invited to the wedding… How Would You Feel?
Imagine the feeling you get, informing all your friends about your child getting married… the dignity, pride and attention you get while walking into the reception hall and everyone is greeting you “congrats ma” and you are flinging you Gele up and down.. Smiling, “thank you very much, hope you’ve been served food”… not because you care but to let them know that you are the Mother of the Groom. If you love that feeling, why deprive someone of that because you love her son.
To the guys, you propose to her, she says yes. She then takes you home to meet her dad, if he likes you and accepts you, Congrats. If he doesn’t like or accept you, the only thing you can do is to tell your girlfriend/fiancé to find out why and what is the reason for her father’s decision. You do not have any right whatsoever to tell her to fight for love and quarrel with her dad or go ahead and marry you behind her dad’s back or force her dad to accept you by fire.
You feel you love her and will marry her whether any Kilimanjaro of a father-in-law likes it or not and ehn whether he likes it or not you will marry her even if means not inviting or involving your father-in-law to be. Or probably planning to elope with her…
Your Karma is special.
It is one thing for the groom to walk with his bride out of the church after the wedding… it’s another thing for the Father of the bride to walk his daughter into the church.
Imagine the total attention, everyone standing, the pastors all at the altar, the handsome groom in front in the church, the joy and pride when all eyes from families, friends, neighbors and “I hear and branch” turn around to watch you in that 24yard dragging on the floor, holding the hand of your beautiful well trained daughter into the church… forming looking straight with a little smile, walking slowly like you are one humble respected honorable, knowing in your church-mind that all eyes are on you.. the baba iyawo (father of the bride)…
The walking into the reception and shaking your friends just to let others know that you are the father of the bride… The official father and daughter dance at the reception, falling the hand of your agbada and raising it up every 28 seconds just to show off.
And then… you decide to deprive a man of this joy because of love and you decide to impregnate his daughter so he will agree to do rush rush underground marriage and give you his daughter… Your Karma I say… Is really special
To them ladies… “woby sistress”, “daughters of Jezebel” who are praying for their boyfriend’s mother to die so they don’t get to experience the wahala of Mother-in-law… and you really think you too will be alive to welcome your own daughter-in-law. *laughs in spiritual wickedness*
To the people who feel they are “Olugbesan”… messenger of Karma, you feel you know what your spouse’s parent did and you decide to be used to punish them. Your case is likened to the children of Israel. God said he was going to leave to Israelites to be serious punished by a country… but he himself will punish that country.
Who am I to advise you? I’m just a blogger who happens to be single and I stand to be corrected